By Jacqueline
Verrilli
As the holidays approach, those of us who get confused by
the concept of gift-giving get very nervous.
It’s not that we are worried about finding the exactly-right present for
each of our loved ones, it’s that we simply do not understand why, in first
world countries, when everyone in the middle and upper classes buys exactly what they want whenever they want
it… why is gift-giving still a thing at all?
We find gift-giving to be ludicrous attempts to please others in the circumstance
of monumental information asymmetries. And
this doesn’t just apply to holiday presents.
We hate birthdays, anniversaries, new babies, housewarmings… Were it not for the fact that all this
gift-giving vigorously stimulates the world economy by keeping factories pumping
out home goods and electronics, keeping untold millions employed, causing a
substantial increase in the velocity of money, and sharply increasing the world
money supply, we would most certainly attempt to put a stop to all the nonsense. Why?
Because giving gifts to people who have the resources to purchase those
items themselves is inefficient, and the emotional drama involved in getting
just the right thing that the other person could have bought themselves is
irrational. And inefficiency and
irrationality violate our laws and we just don’t like that!
Gifts are Not Rational
At this time of year, millions of people spend (economists
might say waste) a great deal of time shopping trying to pick out that exactly-right
thing for another party. The first thing
that an economist will point out is that the investment of time in any endeavor,
in this case shopping, involves the opportunity costs of doing other things
that might provide a higher level of utility, like, say, spending time talking with
family or catching up on the fluff pieces in “The Economist”. We do, however, concede that shopping is
considered by many as a form of entertainment.
Constant, ever-changing visual stimulation of lovely items that one
might potentially bag and bring home is fun for people, so shopping in and of
itself does provide utility. With the
additional overlay of touching upon our instincts to hunt and gather, shopping
is a natural, ritualistic, survival behavior, which is both exciting and
comforting.
But gift-buying is where things get dicey. Upon coming upon an item that attracts them,
people often think to themselves “He’ll love this!” The reality of this moment is that a
particularly attractive item has triggered the person’s brain to react - to
have a positive emotion known as infatuation - and the item now becomes a set
point enmeshed with the buyer’s emotional state. Additionally, the buyer has a positive experience
in believing that they have achieved a few goals: getting one gift identified, anticipating
making another person feel good, and anticipating having that person appreciate
their thoughtful efforts and the results of those efforts because they found the greatest
gift ever. These (mostly unconscious) thoughts
produce (mostly unconscious) expectations and emotional investment in the buyer’s
mind regarding the receiver’s appreciation of the item.
The unfortunate reality of this whole situation is
complicated and profound, so I will only touch on a few ways in which the
irrationality of gift-purchasing and giving can ultimately decrease utility. The expectations and emotional investment in
the gift can result in the giver feeling personally rejected if the reaction
the giver gets from the recipient is anything less than utter joy. We often (egocentrically) assume that we know
someone well enough to have an idea of what they might appreciate, but we may
be disregarding the facts that tastes change and people can be very
fickle. Moreover, even if the item is exactly
right in every way save one, e.g. the color, the giver and receiver will be
somewhat disappointed and utility is destroyed. Even more so when returns or exchanges
are required. Next, it happens very
often that the receiver actually does really like the item, but makes some
comment about it that the giver misinterprets as an expression of dislike or
disappointment and so, even though the gift added utility to the receiver, the
giver’s feelings are irrationally hurt, lowering their utility. And, of course,
if, in fact, the receiver does not like the item, money and time have been
spent to no avail – the utility-level bottoms out for both people.
When you get right down to it, gift-giving in the first
world, among the middle and upper class, which is clearly not even remotely
needs-based, is fundamentally irrational.
The idea that we can provide someone else utility by buying them
something stems from an irrational, egocentric view that one human being can somehow
know what is in someone else’s mind, which is not only impossible, it may
border on a schizoid disorder. Only the
individual can know what will truly provide them with utility and so gifts are
based upon a huge informational asymmetry – they know what they like, you do
not. You have an educated guess, an inkling,
or a notion. Those are not the same
thing as knowing. The reality of
gift-giving actually involves a buyer taking a risk in purchasing something
that they
are attracted to in hopes that the other person will like it, too. Hope is not a rational reaction to risk. Calling up the potential receiver’s spouse to
see if they still enjoy golf is close to rational, and calling the potential
recipient directly to just ask if they would like the item you are considering is
the most rational thing you can do when it comes to gifts. “But that would spoil the surprise!” I hear
you thinking (my own irrationality duly noted, here). Yes. Economists don’t like surprises, they are the
manifestation of an information asymmetry and are, therefore, a sign of inefficiency. Eeeewwww!
I just gave myself the heebie-jeebies!!
Gift-Giving is
Inefficient
Economists view the world through the lens of efficiently
distributed and utilized resources. This
requires “perfect” information. Everybody
knows exactly what they need in order to survive, and want in order to thrive,
and they exchange that information readily and freely with others in order to gain
access to those resources. The economist’s
idea of a great gift is the one where
the receiver told you the exact one they
would appreciate, including the color; no surprises, no wrong sizes, and no inefficiency. Perfect information creates zero waste. In Italy, similar to here in the US, it is
customary to give people a gift when they get married, but it is not customary
(or it wasn’t until very recently) for the coppia di fidanzati (the engaged
couple) to register for gifts. The newly
married would find themselves the owners of random sets of mismatched dinnerware,
a large number of knick-knacks, and multiples of household appliances like irons
or espresso makers. And in Italy (also
unless things have changed recently), there are often no returns or exchanges
on purchased goods. Italian wedding
gifts are an economist’s nightmare. The
utter inefficiency and utility destruction would likely keep some of us up at
night.
[Don’t worry guys, after speaking to my cousin, the customs have changed
a bit – registries are coming into vogue in the metropolitan areas and most people
have learned to just give money.] Thankfully for us economists, the
internet is making things SO much more efficient. On-line registries and wish lists coupled
with the ability to buy something instantaneously and have it shipped directly
to the recipient expediently and transparently (thanks to package-tracking technology)
are better than any anti-anxiety drug for an economist.
But let's face it, gift-giving among the relatively well-off is the equivalent of playing musical chairs with enough chairs for everybody, we are simply trading among ourselves the things that we all already equally have. Truly, the best possible solution to the inefficiency
of gift-giving is, of course, to give items to those people who actually need
things so that resources are not just efficiently purchased, but efficiently
distributed and utilized. People providing
needed items and services to those who are generally less well-off is likely to
substantially improve the recipients’ well-being. We see this happening in offices where people
are asked to purchase gifts for the underprivileged locally, and at churches that
organize food and clothing drives and providing meals for those who need them
within their communities. Many people
are donating year round to local food banks, clothing charities, and emergency
funds, and I have seen many initiatives for people to donate their professional
expertise to community members.
Giving of Your Gifts
Giving of Your Gifts
Within the last ten years charities have been exposed to be a
mixed-bag of efficiency; many people who need the resources do not show up to
get them out of pride, fear of judgement, or lack of awareness. Also, it has
been shown that some of those who accept the charity can become dependent on it
because they begin to view themselves as incapable or undeserving of wage-paying
work. A self-esteem downward spiral
ensues. The problem has been that,
historically, donations are in the form of products, foods, and even money,
given with no expectation of anything in return. This is based on two misguided beliefs, that
giving without the expectation of receiving anything in return is a show of
unconditional love (which it can certainly be if the receiver understands how
to use the charitable donation effectively to raise their level of well-being),
and that people should be free to do whatever they wish with what they are
given freely (again, this is noble and this article should not be viewed as
denigrating charitable donations and freedom from interference – please read on). The science is clear. The best way for those with means to assist
in the efficient distribution and utilization of resources is to act as a
mentor: developing a relationship with underprivileged individuals and respectfully
learning from them what they need in order to be able to raise their own levels
of utility.
More and more charities are now looking to make gains in particular,
focused areas of need using outreach and mentoring as their main means of
impact. Charitable organizations and social
entrepreneurs are learning how to gauge the effectiveness of programs and track
success with actual hard data. Did I
just hear all you economists cheer? The
effective and efficient use of resources is absolutely founded upon people at
the lower end of the economic continuum being able to increase their own well-being
through the better utilization of their HUMAN CAPITAL resources. The need for food banks, homeless shelters,
free clothing and other basic necessities is not going to go away in the
immediate future, so don’t stop giving money and goods to those entities that effectively
distribute those resources. But when it
comes to gifts, there can be no greater way to increase your own utility and
that of another than giving the gift of your time in mentoring another human
being. You will make us economists very,
very happy. Funny thing is, I think this
suggestion better reflects the real purpose behind some of these holidays,
anyway.
And if you still feel the need to give a gift to someone who
has the resources to buy the item in order to show your appreciation for that
person being in your life, well, so be it.
Go ahead, see if we economists care.
It’s your money, you get to do whatever you want with it… Fine.
But call them first, please…???